BDSM & Kink coaching & mentoring
IN PRAISE OF SHADOWS
BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism
I support people who are intrigued by and want to explore their sexuality.
The territory of Eros is amorphous, unique to each of us. It is shaped as much by our hidden desires, our personal history. as it is by our culture and our upbringing. My expertise is in BDSM and kink and the many shapes in which we can embody Dominance and submisssion. We may play with sensations, especially with those considered “negative” or taboo: pain, humiliation, restriction, bondage and fetishes.
I mentor people who want to learn the arts of the Dominant stance or - perhaps and - its submissive counterpart.
Novices and seasoned Dominatrixes and Masters come to me for further mentoring in the psychology of BDSM and kink. They also come in order to explore and develop particular techniques.
Some issues we can explore together:
Coming out to our families, friends, colleagues… Power issues, Control issues, D/s dynamics, Consent, Gender, Shame, Fear, Valuing oneself, Body image, Age, Belonging, Having Agency, Trust, Boundaries, Joy, Connectedness, or just Pleasure.
My own struggles with power dynamics and with the many faces of sexuality and gender have led me to become both a professional and a life style Dominatrix.
In my thirties, just after I had my daughter, I started a Jungian analysis which lasted seven years. These two events combined with my formal training in astrology changed my Iife profoundly. It dawned on me that I had been trapped in a loop of abusive relationships. Moreover, I realised I was a part of and partly responsible for this state of affairs. That acknowledgement released past narratives and brought a new flow of energy. I created and developed my art and applied art practices and at the same time my interest in power dynamics and the development of a healthy relationship to personal power steadily grew.
At 49, I decided to channel much more of my new energy into BDSM. I sought a mentor and became an apprentice to a highly regarded Pro Dominatrix. After a year I spread my wings and made a departure from my previous careers. This change proved to be immensely meaningful for me, freeing yet more energy, allowing me to become a real citizen of life and impacting positively on all my relationships. Over the years I have built up a solid reputation with my colleagues, with my students and with a wide variety of clients, some coming from far away.
I have learnt, and I continue to learn, much about how formerly un-lived and un-loved parts of ourselves can flourish when we play with skill in a safe, sane and consensual manner. Play can completely transform our lives if we do the work of conscious enquiry and integration, hand in hand with the experience of heightened sensations and exploration of the shadow. I regard Eros -"transformative love" in Ancient Greek - as a very potent crucible.