YOU

Do any of the following statements sound like how people would describe you?

You are Strong, Courageous, Resilient,

You are Creative,

You are Determined and Persistent,

You are Committed and Loyal,

You have Defeated Obstacles to Get to Where you Are,

You are Passionate,

You are a Visionary,

You are Sensitive and Compassionate,

You are a Talented and Charismatic Mediator,

You are and/or have been Successful,

Yet you sense that there is more to life… You are at a transitional point in your life’s journey.

You may be experiencing a lack of drive, interest, appetite for life and be at a loss with your sexual life.

You may feel overwhelmed or disconnected, disappointed and/or irritated, angry

You may feel a loss or a lack of trust in yourself, in life and/or others

You may find difficult to shake feelings of anxiety and uncertainty

You are unsure about what you truly want and/or need

You don’t know how to ask for what you want and desire

You are afraid of doing things differently and being rejected or shamed or both

You may feel captive of a narrative that doesn’t represent you anymore.

You may find yourself wondering about your direction or needing to find a direction more aligned to where you are now and/or re-chart your path.

You may experience a lack of enthusiasm for your projects or a loss of purpose

Having achieved some - or many - success(es), being granted your wishes, you may be realising that you are no longer willing to pay the price.

You have had a major set back and don’t know anymore how to make life work

You can’t let yourself be vulnerable

You are more powerful than what you think you are

The very qualities that have paved your success may be preventing you from living a life you truly desire.

These strengths may have been the “making”of you but you are on the verge of discovering or have a gnawing feeling that these praised and precious strengths may be holding you back. These strengths are often our saboteurs.

Do any of the descriptions below resonate with you?

  • Because harmony and peace are so important to you, and non-judgment is natural to you, you can can bring opposites on new territory and create bridges between people. In an era of intense polarisation it is an invaluable gift.

    Yet on a personal level, these great strengths may have you focusing on the positive and pleasant in an extreme way, downplaying the importance of real problems tin your personal life to the point of numbness. What is avoided doesn’t go away; it festers. Feeling numb to pain is very different from knowing how to harvest the wisdom and power of pain.

  • Confident and action orientated, you are decisive, persistent, a force of nature for those around you.You are capable of doing the right thing at the cost of being unpopular. You challenge yourself and others.

    Yet you do so at the cost of high anxiety when things are not going your way and impatience with others feelings and different styles from yours. There are many things in Life that we ultimately do not control.

  • Driven, pragmatic, adaptable, goal oriented, self-directed you are capable of growing yourself and others to achieve full potential. These are awesome qualities. You are also good at covering up insecurities and showing the world a constantly positive image. You rely on constant performance and achievement to grant yourself self-respect and self-validation, thus, workaholism is not foreign to you and perhaps other addictive behaviours as well.

    The monster that needs constant feeding prevents you from a deeper connection with yourself and those around you.

  • Your drive towards great expertise, your observational skills and your talent for deep insight and understanding through objective analysis have helped you become the well respected person you are.

    But your penchant for analysis limits the depth and flexibility required for relationships. You may feel frustrated by the interference of emotionality in others which you may seems a wasteful intrusion on your precious time. You may also feel quite misunderstood and alone.

  • Empathic, Sensitive, highly tuned to all your emotions including the difficult ones, you are capable of connecting deeply with others, teaching, and healing them. You are a master of introspection, perception and empathy.

    Yet you may find that your vitality is impaired by so much focus on internal processing and brooding. Brooding often turns into self-pity and self-pity is a poor substitute for self-love. You may not be aware of it, but you may be pushing others away: People around you may feel constantly tested by you as if you were trying to find out whether they care enough about you to stay.

  • You are vigilant, sensitive and aware of true risks & dangers. You are reliable to a fault. consistent and perseverant and hardworking, you are a builder and a rock. You are perfect at managing crisis situations.

    Yet your extraordinary sensitivity to danger signals means that you function on high alert and this robs you of vital energy that could otherwise bee put to great use. It is draining to you and those around you.

  • Empathic, loving and giving, you are tuned to other’s feelings and needs.

    People feel heard and seen around you as well as cared for. This is such a precious gift!

    Yet you have difficulty expressing your own needs openly. When you loose sight of your own needs for too long, you may become resentful of others who don’t give back as much as you do. Not taking care of your own needs can lead to burnout as well as resentment.

  • Your high energy, vitality, curiosity, creativity and enthusiasm is contagious. You are a wizard when it comes to engaging with and inspiring others.

    Yet you may find yourself rarely content with your current activity: The grass is forever greener somewhere else and you are in a constant search of greater excitement. Restlessness can be a strategy to escape from dealing with fears, anxiety and painful feelings was you busy yourself and spin an impressive number of plates. Others may feel that they can’t really depend on you which in turn may affect your capacity for meaningful relationships.

  • High Ideals and principles guide your life. You are self-disciplined, direct, discerning and a master at bringing order and structure to chaos.

    Your need for self-control paired with a highly critical view of yourself and others often means that you pay a high price for your successes: you can be often irritable, tense sometimes to the point of rigidity. This can impact your health as well as your relationships.