Intimacy Begins in the Basement and the Attic: The Spaces We Overlook.
“The House Opposite” by Leonora Carrington
Most intimacy problems present themselves as communication problems. In my experience with clients, that's often only the surface of it.
Underneath is something older: the parts of ourselves we built a life around without ever quite entering, the feelings, instincts and desires we set aside to get by. I think of them as the basement and the attic of a house, two spaces we rarely visit, holding both what we've feared and what we've never let ourselves want.
In my latest article for Life Coach Directory, I explore what it means to claim those spaces, why closeness with another person depends on closeness with yourself first, and how power dynamics, held with consent and awareness, can become one of the ways love speaks rather than something we avoid naming.
